Friday, September 25, 2009

Church conflict

Church conflict author and guru Dr. Speed Leas said, "the most important thing to remember when working in a hot fight is to recognize that everybody wants to quickly simplify the issues so they have a clear reason for killing each other."

Saturday Men's Fight Club

Men,
This Saturday we will gather in the church Cafe at 7:30 am for coffee, fellowship and Bible study. Please plan to join us. This week we will resume our study of First John. We will continue with our introduction to the book and begin looking at section one (1:1-4).

This week on the blog I posted information on the Epistle. Please look over the four posts and come prepared to discuss this rich and exciting book. Have a great day and I'll see you tomorrow (Lord willing).

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Adrian

First John # 4

My detailed outline of the first section of First John is as follows.

I. John Shares an Introduction and Invitation for his Readers to Know the Embodiment of Right Doctrine and Behavior (I Jn. 1:1-4)

A. John's Introduction to the Embodiment of God - Jesus Christ (1:1-2)

1. As God Jesus Christ is Eternal (1:1)
1). Jesus is in Genesis 1:1
2). Jesus is the Word in John 1:1
3). Jesus' life parallels God's life

2. Jesus Christ is the Source of God's life (1:1)
1). This life is Zoe
2). This life is the work of God - Logos
3). This life is unstoppable - debar

3. John's Testimony about Jesus Christ (1:1)
1). John is testifying against Docetism (a form of Gnosticism)
(1) Docetism taught that all matter is evil
(2) Docetism taught that sin cannot be separated from the material nature of man
(3) Docetism taught that if Jesus Christ was divine and sinless he had to be a spirit who simply appeared in human form.

2). John's testimony is as a credible witness (1:3)
(1) He saw Jesus with his own eyes (beheld, KJV: watched for a long time)
(2) He touched Jesus with his own hands
(3) He heard Jesus with his own ears
(4) Later John writes, "this is how you test if a person/spirit is from God: can they say Jesus Christ came in the flesh" (4:2)

B. John's Invitation for his Readers to Know the Embodiment of Right Doctrine and Behavior (1:3-4).

1. Fellowship is the Reason for the Invitation (1:3)
1) Fellowship refers to relationship
2) Fellowship connotes a mutual sharing of life forces
3) John wants his readers to have fellowship with one another, God, Jesus

2. Fellowship provides complete joy (1:4)
1) A divine joy
2) Complete joy (360 degree - up, in, out, and over)

3. Fellowship means to walk in the reality of truth and revelation

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Thursday, September 24, 2009

First John # 3

As I am studying First John for my personal enrichment I find it helpful to create an outline of the book as I go. So far, I have identified two key themes from my reading. John wants his readers to (1) know right doctrine and (2) know what is right behavior for a follower of Jesus Christ. The following are the main points in my outline. See if you concur with your research.

I. An introduction and invitation to know the Embodiment of right doctrine and behavior (1:1-4)

II. Those who know right doctrine and behavior will demonstrate it in their relationship with one another (1:1-2:27)

III. Knowing right doctrine and behavior is derived only through a relationship with Jesus Christ (2:28-4:6)

IV. Knowing Jesus requires Christ followers to intentionally intermingle doctrine and behavior at all times and in every means of their existence (4:7-5:12).

V. Prayer is an important aspect for knowing and maintaining right doctrine and behavior (5:13-17)

VI. Knowing and practicing right doctrine and behavior gives assurance to the Christian that he/she is a true disciple of Christ (5:18-21)

What say you?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Trust the Word

The Apostle Paul writes,
"Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! All of this is from God who has reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ ... And he has committed to us the ministry of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ's ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ's behalf, Be reconciled to God" (II Corinthians 5:17-20, NIV).

As Christ followers we must trust the word of the Apostle that through Jesus Christ, provision has been made to reconcile the whole world unto God. The crux of this is seen through Paul's use of the Greek word katallage - meaning to unite and/or restore to divine favor. Here the written text is declaring that the Living Word - Jesus Christ (Logos, John 1:1, 14), provided the means to restore all of God's creation to its original intent.

Our understanding of Logos, referring to Christ, is partially derived from the Old Testament word, "dabar". It is translated from the Hebrew in our English Bibles as "word" but has significant implication in that it refers to both word and action as being one in the same. Dabar is both substance and process together. An example of this is seen in Genesis 1:3, when "God said, Let there is light; and there was light."

God's words have power and cannot simply be undone. When God declared he was reconciling the world unto himself through Jesus, he was not only communicating his heart's desire for his creation but was providing the means and initiating the process as well. As followers of Christ we must trust the word which presents Jesus as the embodiment of God who came to earth and set into motion an irreversible, world altering process which has taken hold in us, is actively working in the world today, and is something we are called to participate in for the glory of God.

To not participate in the reconciliation process of the world then is to stand in the way of God. Thus, we must lay down our differences and come together with our fellow man in order to fulfill the command of Christ to love both God and people unconditionally. As ambassadors of the Word we must unite our hearts and pool our resources in actively seeking the best, most fulfilling life possible for all of human kind. We must seek to make God's creation a better place through our word and deed demonstrating that "the Word became flesh and dwelt among us ... we have experienced his glory and been transformed through his grace and mercy ... and Jesus is actively sharing his blessing with the world" (John 1:14-16). Together we must trust the Word to this end!

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

The love of God

"If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on the door!" (as told by Bible teacher Evelyn Laycock)

First John # 2

Church tradition credits the Apostle John with penning the three Epistles of John. The author's name is not stated in any of the Epistles but the author does address himself as "the elder" in both Second and Third John (verse 1). In this context scholars believe this would have been a title given to an Apostle. Assuming so, John is the logical fit. The writing style and vocabulary of the three Epistles is similar to that of the Fourth Gospel and the dating of the Epistles is near the end of the first century. Historically we know that John would have been alive at that time.

the key word for the Epistle of First John is "know." It is found in the key verse (First John 5:13) and in numerous other verses as well. John also used "know" as a key word in the Fourth Gospel. He wants his readers to know there is nothing more important in life than to know the life and teachings of Jesus. By studying and emulating the life and teachings of Christ the Believer will know right doctrine and behavior.

There are two important phrases found in the Gospel and Epistles that bear John's name: "God is light" and "God is love." Light refers to doctrine and Love speaks of behavior. For those of us who want to please God our focus must be on Jesus Christ. He is the full manifestation of God in flesh and His example is the embodiment of the doctrine and behavior of God Himself.

As a follower of Jesus Christ I encourage you to be a student of the Gospels and the Epistles of John. Read and study the words in red because they are the articles of God. Note the behavior of Jesus for it is a true reflection of the heart of God which we are to emulate for His glory.

"He who loves his brother abides in the light" (I John 2:10)

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Monday, September 21, 2009

The journey of life

"It is good to have an end to journey towards, but it is the journey that matters in the end" (Ursula Leguin) ..... "Luggage is for the journey, not the journey for the luggage" (Jesuit theologian Gerard Hughes)

First John # 1

The book of First John is known as a general epistle because it contains no specific address to which it was sent. Tradition says it was circulated throughout several Asian churches near the end of the first century. William Barclay's take on the book is, "it is a pastoral letter of desperation written in words that are loving and anxious" (Barclay, The Daily Study Bible Series, pg 3).

Tradition holds that John was writing to offset the false teachers traveling through the churches in Asia espousing a form of Gnosticism. These teachers were most likely former prominent Jewish Christians who forfeited their faith in Jesus and fell prey to the teachings of the Gnosticism. The Gnostics believed they had a special relationship with God and could do no wrong; denied Jesus as the Messiah; taught that the incarnation did not occur; and, that one could have "higher revelation" - could know God other than through Jesus Christ.

The key verse for the book is First John 5:13 - "These things I have written to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know you have eternal life, and that you may continue to believe in the name of the Son of God" (NKJV). Here John echoes the cry of other New Testament writers when he says "the important thing is to "know" Jesus Christ. May that be our daily passion for living -"to know the fullness of Jesus Christ." He is the "Revelation" of God. He is the God who became flesh and dwelt among us. Enlightenment comes to those who love Jesus Christ and live daily with and for Him, surrender their whole life to Him permitting Him to fill their heart with His love, and choose to study His teachings and emulate His life.

Do you "know Him" today?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Saturday Men's Fight Club

Men, we will be in the church cafe this Saturday at 7:30 am for coffee, fellowship, and Bible study. This week we will begin a study of I John. Read up!
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Adrian

Sunday night's Bible study guide

This week we will once again study the topics of love and holiness. We will revisit the simple claim from scripture that God is love (I John 4:8, 16) and how it resides at the center of our understanding of divine holiness, and again how this three-word phrase sheds light on what it means to be holy. "God is love" illustrates the whole of the Bible's testimony regarding the character and identity of God.

Leftovers from last week:
There are couple of items from last week's we still need to discuss before we move deeper into our study:

1. (I John 3:16-17) God's love (agape) acts to promote well-being when responding to the caused ill-being. In other words, God's love repays evil with good. (Oord, Relational Holiness, pg. 79)

Example: God's love responded to man's sin by acting in a way that promoted abundant life (Romans 5:8).

2. If we love God ... we will respond to those who sin against us by acting/treating them in ways that promote abundant life (Romans 12:14).

3. How is God's love expressed to His creation?
(1) God's love (agape) is demonstrated to His creation through "eros". An expression of sensuality that conveys the value, beauty and desirability of a person or object to God. Eros promotes well-being of His creation by affirming and enjoying what is valuable to Him.

Can you recall any examples of this from the scriptures?

(2) God's love (agape) is also demonstrated through "philia" - a cooperative friendship. God's love promotes well-being by acting out His value for relationship with His creation.

Can you recall examples of this from the scriptures?

4. God's love is manifest in these distinct ways. He perfectly demonstrates them "agape-unconditionally, (Omni-benevolently) to His creation. When we love in the proper context we are holy as God is holy. When we choose the best (act in agape-love through eros, philia) to which God calls in any particular moment we are acting in holiness. Walking in holiness is our moment by moment response to God's love.

5. Holiness is the result of a distinct and subsequent work(s) of grace that occurs at the time when a Christ follower fully surrenders self to Christ. At this time the believer's heart is filled with God's complete and perfect love which then pushes out of man's heart the things that have been in rebellion to God's love. Living the life of holiness then is abiding in the love of God - demonstrating the full manifestation of agape love to God, others, creation and self.

This week's material: focuses on the main reason why we love.

6. We love because Jesus Christ is God (I John 4:15; 4:9-10; John 1:1, 14) Jesus shares fully in God's character and being.

7. We love because we have fellowship with Jesus (I Jn. 1:3; 2:6; 3:23. Fellowship means to walk as He walked.

8. We love because Jesus' love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit (Romans 5:5)

9. MAYBE THE MOST IMPORTANT REASON... We love because Jesus first loved us (I Jn. 4:11-12, 19). A perfect love responds to others because God first loved us.

What implications does this have for us?

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Bibliography
Oord, Relational Holiness, Beacon Hill, 2005
Sellon & Smith, Practicing Right Relationship, Alban, 2005
Len Sweet, So Beautiful, David C. Cook, 2009

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I hope to see you Sunday night. Please come prepared to discuss this important topic. Thanks for stopping by!

Adrian

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

The Monkey and the Fish

An Eastern parable tells the story of how a typhoon stranded a monkey on an island. In a protected place on the shore, while waiting for the raging waters to recede, he spotted a fish swimming against the current. It seemed to the monkey that the fish was struggling and needed assistance. Being of kind heart, the monkey resolved to help the fish.

At considerable risk to himself, the monkey moved far out on the precarious limb of a tree, reached down, and snatched the fish from the waters. Scurrying back to the safety of his shelter, he carefully laid the fish on dry ground. For a few moments the fish showed signs of great excitement but soon settled into a peaceful rest and died.

The parable you just read starts out Dave Gibbons' book titled, "The Monkey and the Fish". In the book Gibbons talks about how the Church sometimes tries to help people but ends up hurting them. What are some ways our church may be acting like the monkey?
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Adrian

Spiders on organization

Healthy churches are complex in nature. The metaphor of the spider and web illustrate this point when it comes to gathering and processing information. A spider web has many connections but unlike a fishnet for example, the connections are all convergent. Often a spider will sit at the point of origination (convergent) and respond and process the trapping of the web. The point of convergence may be on the web or at a central location near the base of several webs ("If This is the Way the World Works", Avery & Gaede, pages 43 & 53).

The church must create many webs in which to gather information but the point of origination for each informational web created as well as the assessment of the information gathered must be "convergent", based upon WHFC's identity: the stated reason why we exist. Our vision, mission and objectives are the core values that give us continuity. Commitment and loyalty by all to the stated purpose of the congregation is essential for the well-being of the organization.

"Change and health in the church is situational; it is based upon the interconnectedness between the information gathered, the purpose of the organization and her ability to respond to the information received. It also requires a web of relationships with strong interconnectedness and leaders in the web who can learn to stand forward, stand behind and stand beside the web welcoming surprises, being curious about differences, delighting in inventiveness, and nurturing and connecting people in relationship" (Leadership Without Easy Answers by Ron Heifetz).

So who wants to help be a spider web builder for God? And, what questions do we need to ask the general congregation to begin gathering the life giving information we need? What say you?
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Adrian

Gandhi on leadership

There go my people, I must hurry and catch up with them.

Albert Einstein

Albert Einstein said, "The kind of thinking that will solve the world's problems will be of a different order to the kind of thinking that created those problems in the first place."

taken from Frost & Hirsch, The Shaping of Things to Come: Innovation and Mission for the Twenty-first Century Church, page 7).

Monday, September 14, 2009

Autopoiesis

Autopoiesis is a word derived from the Greek and means "auto" - self and "poiesis" - creation. It is the fundamental process for creating and renewing self, for growth and change. Living systems do not self create in isolation however. They must be in constant communication with their environment. Information must flow freely to and from the system as well as within the system.

A healthy system will reorganize itself to deal with the new information. They are adaptive and resilient, rather than rigid and unchanging. A healthy organization will cope with new information; they will actively seek it, because this information tells the system how it might need to change in order to survive and grow.

The system processes the information based upon her identity. Identity is derived from a clear mission statement that communicates who they are and why they exist: the values, shared beliefs and desires, and state the objectives of the organization. From this she will determine what does and does not belong in the system. Change will promote stability in a system that has a clear identity and will enable her to develop in the way of her own choosing.

It is the leader's role to structure conversation to bring forth the information that will raise the intelligence of the organization. We must be willing to look beyond the obvious for information. We must converse with the Sunday school student and the home bound-not only people who serve on a board or committee. We must interview local owners of business,those who live in our neighborhoods and walk on our streets. We must ask the opinion of the local school board members and city fathers, check the activity calendar for city and school sporting activities as well as the local demographics. Congregations grow in intelligence by exercising unbridled curiosity and working with the information she receives.

(The above material is from "If This is How the World Works" by Avery & Gaede, pages 25-35)

What are your thoughts on how we can better gather information from our environment to filter through out vision, mission and objectives?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Friday, September 11, 2009

Call me

Call me (that is if you want me to have your number). Actually my Palm Trio died today and Alltel could not transfer my contact info to the new phone. So, if you want me to have your number please give me a call. My cell number is the same.

Thanks
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Adrian

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Sunday Night Bible Study - LOVE

This Sunday evening at 6 pm we will meet in room 227 for Bible study, singing, prayer and personal testimonies about the goodness of Jesus Christ. I hope you will make plans to join us. Our study will be a continuation of a topic we began a few weeks ago on love.

A refresher from our previous study includes:
> Love is the core of holiness.
> To understand love one must study the nature and character of God (see I Pet. 1:15-16; I Jn. 4:8)
> God's essence is love and God acts lovingly out of His essence.
> People are holy as God is holy when they act out of God's love. To be holy is to love: to love God, others, God's creation and self.
> What is love? To love is to act intentionally in response to God and others, to promote well being.
- Love is an action, a verb-intentional and deliberate to produce something good.
- Love involves a response from God's influence (I Jn. 4:19; Rom. 5:5)
- Love targets "well-being." Well-being means to address the whole person/thing. Specifically to help people flourish: spiritually, socially, emotionally, economically,mentally and even ecologically.
> Love and holiness is relational - people are interconnected with others and environment. Love and holiness must address all demensions/aspects of the person.
> To love with God's love one must be filled with God's love. As the heart fills with the love of God it pushes out the things that are unloving/un-Christlike. Result: we are filled with the essence of God which we then live out in our daily life (see II Pet. 1:4).

This week's discussion includes:
1. What are the forms of God's love (or "How is His love expressed")?

2. God's love is agape (Greek) meaning "full, complete or perfect love".

3. God's love (agape) acts to promote well-being when responding to actions that cause ill-being - it repays evil with good.(Oord, Relational Holiness, pg. 79)
> God's love responds to man's sin by acting in a way that promotes abundant life (Romans 5:8).
> We must respond to those who sin against us by acting in ways that promote abundant life (Romans 12:14).

4. God's love (agape) is expressed to His creation through "eros". An expression of sensuality that conveys the value, beauty and desirability of a person or object.
Eros promotes well-being by affirming and enjoying what is valuable.

5. God's love (agape) is "philia" - a cooperative friendship. God's love promotes well-being by acting out His value for relationship.

6. God's love is manifest in these distinct ways. He perfectly demonstrates them "agape-unconditionally, Omni-benevolently) to His creation. When we love in the proper context we are holy as God is holy.

7. When we choose the best (act in agape-love through eros, philia) to which God calls in any particular moment we are acting in holiness. Walking in holiness is our moment by moment response to God's love.

8. Holiness is the result of a distinct and subsequent work of grace that occurs at the time when a Christ follower fully surrenders self to Christ. At this time the believer's heart is filled with God's complete and perfect love which then pushes out of man's heart the things that have been in rebellion to God's love.

9. Living the life of holiness then is abiding in the love of God - demonstrating the full manifestation of agape love to God, others, creation and self.

I hope to see you Sunday night. Please come prepared to discuss this important topic. Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

The Attributes of Love

The French philosopher La Rochefoucould said,"there is only one kind of love, but there are several thousand different versions"

Mother Teresa on Love

Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within the reach of every hand.

Men's Fight Club

This Saturday morning at 7:30 the Men's Fight Club will resume meeting after taking the holiday weekend off. The topic of our discussion will be on the "Core Truths about Jesus Christ found in the Gospels." This week's core truth is: "Jesus Christ offers New Beginnings." Our key texts for study are: John 3:1-7 and Luke 7:38-50.

Please read the texts and answer the following questions:
> What is meant by the phrase "a new beginning?"
> How does one get a "new beginning?"
> What does this core truth mean for me?
> What implication does it have for the Church?

I hope to see you on Saturday!
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Adrian

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Communication

Communication is the lifeline of relationship. Without effective communication organizations like WHFC fail to thrive (maybe even survive). Do you agree?

I have been reading "Leadership and the New Science: Discovering Order in a Chaotic World" by Margaret Wheatley. She writes,
"for any system to remain alive information must continually be generated. If there is nothing new, or the information merely confirms what already is, then the result will be death. Closed systems wind down and decay ... the source of life is new information - novelty - ordered into new structures. We need to have new information coursing through our systems, disturbing the peace, imbuing everything it touches with the possibility of new life. We need therefore, to develop new approaches to communication - not for management but encouragement, not control but genesis." (pg. 95ff)

In the church setting, communication is the difference that makes a difference because it is that which changes us (Stafford Beers). Communication is not a "thing we can get our hands around, move from place to place, and expect to remain unchanged but is a continuous process which only endures over time if it remains in process of evolution" (Wheatley, pg. 97).

How can we improve the system of communication at WHFC?
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Adrian

Why do we Worship Jesus Christ?

This past weekend we held our annual church wide retreat in Vermillion Ohio. One of the highlights for me was worshipping in the old fashioned tabernacle overlooking lake Erie. Let me share with you my sermon outline from Sunday morning.

The topic: "Why do we worship Jesus Christ?" We worship Jesus because He is worthy. Please note several aspects of His worthiness from the scriptures.

I. Jesus is worthy because He created all things.
Whenever the living creatures give glory and honor and thanks to Him who sits on the throne, who lives forever and ever, the twenty-four elders fall down before Him who sits on the throne and worship Him who lives forever and ever, and cast their crowns before the throne, saying:
“ You are worthy, O Lord,
To receive glory and honor and power;
For You created all things,
And by Your will they exist[and were created (Revelation 4:9-11).

II. Jesus is worthy because He determines the end of all things.
A. He was worthy to remove the scroll from God's hand (Revelation 5:1-7)
And I saw in the right hand of Him who sat on the throne a scroll written inside and on the back, sealed with seven seals. Then I saw a strong angel proclaiming with a loud voice, “Who is worthy to open the scroll and to loose its seals?” And no one in heaven or on the earth or under the earth was able to open the scroll, or to look at it.
4 So I wept much, because no one was found worthy to open and read the scroll, or to look at it. But one of the elders said to me, “Do not weep. Behold, the Lion of the tribe of Judah, the Root of David, has prevailed to open the scroll and to loose its seven seals.”
6 And I looked, and behold, in the midst of the throne and of the four living creatures, and in the midst of the elders, stood a Lamb as though it had been slain, having seven horns and seven eyes, which are the seven Spirits of God sent out into all the earth. Then He came and took the scroll out of the right hand of Him who sat on the throne.

B. He was the only One worthy to unleash God's final judgment upon the earth (Revelation 6:1-8).
Now I saw when the Lamb opened one of the seals; and I heard one of the four living creatures saying with a voice like thunder, “Come and see.” And I looked, and behold, a white horse. He who sat on it had a bow; and a crown was given to him, and he went out conquering and to conquer.

3 When He opened the second seal, I heard the second living creature saying, “Come and see.” Another horse, fiery red, went out. And it was granted to the one who sat on it to take peace from the earth, and that people should kill one another; and there was given to him a great sword.

5 When He opened the third seal, I heard the third living creature say, “Come and see.” So I looked, and behold, a black horse, and he who sat on it had a pair of scales in his hand. And I heard a voice in the midst of the four living creatures saying, “A quart of wheat for a denarius,[d] and three quarts of barley for a denarius; and do not harm the oil and the wine.”

7 When He opened the fourth seal, I heard the voice of the fourth living creature saying, “Come and see.” So I looked, and behold, a pale horse. And the name of him who sat on it was Death, and Hades followed with him. And power was given to them over a fourth of the earth, to kill with sword, with hunger, with death, and by the beasts of the earth.

III. Jesus is worthy of worship because He was slain and redeemed creation by His own blood.

Revelation 5:8-10
Now when He had taken the scroll, the four living creatures and the twenty-four elders fell down before the Lamb, each having a harp, and golden bowls full of incense, which are the prayers of the saints. And they sang a new song, saying:

“ You are worthy to take the scroll,
And to open its seals;
For You were slain,
And have redeemed us to God by Your blood
Out of every tribe and tongue and people and nation,
And have made us kings and priests to our God;
And we shall reign on the earth.”


Revelation 5:11-14

Then I looked, and I heard the voice of many angels around the throne, the living creatures, and the elders; and the number of them was ten thousand times ten thousand, and thousands of thousands, saying with a loud voice:

“ Worthy is the Lamb who was slain
To receive power and riches and wisdom,
And strength and honor and glory and blessing!”

13 And every creature which is in heaven and on the earth and under the earth and such as are in the sea, and all that are in them, I heard saying:

“ Blessing and honor and glory and power
Be to Him who sits on the throne,
And to the Lamb, forever and ever!”

14 Then the four living creatures said, “Amen!” And the twenty-four elders fell down and worshiped Him who lives forever and ever.

IV. Jesus Christ is worthy of our worship because He makes us worthy.
A. We should walk (live) worthy of Him (Ephesians 4:1)
I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called...

B. To walk worthy means to emulate Jesus (Ephesians 4:2-5)
2 with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.

Have you made Jesus Christ worthy in your life?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

The "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" from the book of Revelation speak of the devastation yet to occur during a the time period known as the Great Tribulation. Dr. John Gottman states that the "great tribulation" for relationships usually occurs when one or more of the "four horsemen" present. The "four relational horsemen of the apocalypse" are criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. Interacting with others from any of these four places creates and magnifies distance and distrust. Their appearance often triggers a similar response in others. The result ... relational Armageddon! (Sellon and Smith, Practicing Right Relationship, pg. 72)

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Character is shown by the criticism we forgive - Abe Lincoln

Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit - Peter Ustonov
In ordinary life we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich - Dietrich Bonhoeffer
You can reach a point in life when it almost doesn't matter whether people love you in the way you want but are simply here, nearby enough, that they just bother at all" - Jerry Battle in Chang Rae Lee's Aloft (2204)

Monday, August 31, 2009

It is the ability to self organize, more than anything else, which promotes and enhances our life in the universe - Diarmuid O Murchu
Blessed is the man who finds out which way God is moving and then gets going in the same direction - Len Sweet, "So Beautiful" pg. 58

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Relationships, continued

The earliest stories from the Bible remind us that God created us to be in right relationships with one another. By right I am not referring to right and wrong but rather ones that are appropriate, healthy and God intended. "These relationships are characterized by honor, respect, love, and care. They are creative, mutual, and generative. When we are in right relationship we embody God to each other" (Practicing Right Relationship, Sellon & Smith, pgs. 6-8).

Almost every aspect of our lives depends upon right relationship with others and yet the relational skills of our culture has decreased significantly over the past several decades. Sellon & Smith cite two key contributors to the breakdown of relational skills: technological advancements and the breakdown of nuclear families. Technology contributes to isolation and the breakdown in the family has not served as a healthy model for children to follow. It's difficult for people in our culture to know how to establish sustainable loving relationships.

The Church has a vital role to play in our society regarding relationship development. If the Church does not provide the means for individuals to raise their relational IQ then our society is doomed. It is through right relationship that people find transformation and fulfillment.

What are some things we can do better as a Church to raise the relational IQ of our attenders and community? I'm looking for ideas ... can you help me out? :-)

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Relationships at Church

The strength of the local church is determined by the relationships people form within the congregation. "A big part of what draws people to faith communities is their desire (God created need actually) for caring and supportive relationships. They may initially be drawn to a church because it offers programs or features that meet situational needs in their lives; however studies reveal that it people do not form a significant relational connection within the first few weeks of attending (somewhere between 2-6 weeks) they drift away. Facilities and programs, no matter how excellent, do not satisfy the deeper relational needs of people. Relationship is what holds them and transforms their lives" (Practicing Right Relationship, Sellon & Smith, pg. 5-6).

How can we do a better job of assimilating guests and new/recent attenders into the relational fold of the Church during the 2-6 week window? I'm looking for ideas ... What say you?
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Adrian

Thoughts to ponder

"On the cross Jesus does away with all the rule keeping, debt collecting, point scoring, merit awarding rigmarole of religious systems that try to control God and limit heaven to people like us" - Bishop of Reading Stephen Cottrell.

"Authentic Christian living is lifting the veil of what God has done and is up to and manifesting the heart of God in the world we are privileged to be in" - Leonard Sweet

"Receive what you are and receive what you may become" - Saint Augustine (words shared while preparing to serve the Lord's Supper in North Africa in the fifth century).

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Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Monday, August 24, 2009

The relevance of Church today (continued)

Wow what a week! I had a lot of district business to deal with last week with no extra time left to blog. Whew, now that a new week has dawned I want to follow up on a thread I introduced last Monday on the relevance of the Church in society today. The key questions that I posed were, "Is and how is the Church relevant today?"

I am amazed how the nomenclature of society changes with each passing generation. Some words that were considered socially inappropriate to use 40 years ago are often common place in society today ... the word "suck" is a case and point example. My dad would have knocked me into next week and mom would have washed my mouth out with soap if I would have used the word "suck" as flippantly as so many do today in reference to people and things. Today I pulled out an old dictionary from my college years and the primary definition for the word suck is "to draw liquids through vacuum." Now one of the primary definitions used for the word means "a subject or situation that has no redeeming qualities or areas of deficiency." Hmmmm.

Some say this describes the state of the Church today. That she has little or no redeeming qualities. I disagreed and mentioned several points to refute that notion last week. The second part of the definition is more difficult to refute however because the "Church does have areas of deficiency." Why? The Church is comprised of people and people have issues. In any gathering of humans the broken and woundedness of individuals will be displayed presenting areas of deficiency. We all have them and any Christ follower worth his/her salt will admit to being a work in progress. As the old song goes, "He's still working on me, to make me what I ought to be... How loving and patient He must be, cause He's still working on me."

In the body of Christ our deficiencies can become God's greatest glory. For "in our weaknesses He is made strong" the scriptures say. Also through humbleness of heart we have opportunity to experience God in new ways because of our deficiencies. When deficiencies/inconsistencies present we have the joy of inviting God's Spirit in to invade our lives and transform us into the image of Christ ... to deal with our stuff.

In the holiness tradition we refer to this experience of transformation as "heart purity." It refers to the Christ follower who asks God to fill his/her heart with His love. As the heart fills with God's love everything that is not of Christ is pushed out. God is love (I John 4:8) and everything God does is simply Him acting out the essence of who He is. When we surrender our lives completely to God and ask Him to fill us with His love we then will be imitators of God (Ephesians 5:1-2), living out of the abundance of His love and not through sin and/or the sum total of the brokenness of our lives. Hmmmm... maybe finding a deficiency or two now and then is a good thing? What say you?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Sunday Night Bible Study

This week's Sunday night Bible study will focus on the topic of "love." As you prepare for the study seek to answer the following questions:
> How is love the core of holiness?

> What do the following verses contribute to the correlation of love and holiness?
I Thess. 3:12-13
I Peter 1:15-16
I John 4:8
Ephesians 5:1-2

> What did Jesus mean by the phrase, "everyone will know you are my disciples, if you have love for one another (John 13:35)?

See you Sunday at 6 pm in room 227. Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Saturday Men's Fight Club

This week at the Men's Fight Club we will study the "Core Truths About Jesus Found in the Gospels". We are on "Core Truth" # 11: "Jesus Follows the Pattern of God's Redemption." This will be a continuation from last week's discussion.

Please study Luke 15:4-32 in preparation for Saturday. The questions we did not get to last week are:

> What does it mean to act redemptively according to Jesus' definition?
> What does it mean to act redemptively in the world as a Christian?
> How does being judgmental impact the mission of redemption?
> What does the call to act redemptively mean for the church today?

I look forward to seeing you at 7:30 am in the Cafe.

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Monday, August 17, 2009

Opinions are like mushrooms ...

Opinions ... everyone has an opinion. Someone very influential in my life used to say, "Opinions are like mushrooms ... and in the country the biggest ones usually grow out of a pile of manure!" I've tried to take that lesson to heart over the years. Especially when I read comments like I am about to share.

There seems to be a growing dissatisfaction with the local church in America even to the point where one man said, "The Church in America sucks!" (Steve Hughes, "The Relevance of Jesus Without all of the Religious Crap." page 83ff). Ouch! So does the Church suck? Let's look at what "suck" means first of all. Wikipedia defines it as "a term of general disparagement, indicating the subject or situation has no redeeming value, qualities or purpose. Indicating that a subject has a particular area of deficiency."

Wow, I have not encountered a church that "has no redeeming qualities," have you? No redeeming qualities? That's a pretty harsh pronouncement on a group of people, don't you think? What does the word "redeeming" mean? Again the online dictionary I just quoted gives insight ... "redeeming - "to change for the better."

Is that not why the Church exists ... to help people and communities change for the better as instructed by our Founder and CEO - Jesus Christ? No doubt every Church could do this better and be more relevant in their effort, but nonetheless, the intention of all Christ centered churches that I have ever known or heard about exists for the good of people, families and communities in general. They feed and clothe the homeless, conduct social/relational educational programming, counsel troubled marriages and families, provide meals for those who are sick and injured, and visit those who are housebound, etc.

I think the Church has many redeeming qualities and seeks to make a positive contribution for the betterment of their community and world. That's my opinion ... what's yours? How do you see the Church contributing to the good of God's mission on earth and for the society? How has it blessed your life?

thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Saturday, August 15, 2009

Focus on the family

This weekend our sermon topic will focus on the importance of the family and local church in society today. Early in sacred literature God established the insititution we know today as the nuclear family unit comprised of dad, mom and kids and how He intends to impact the world through it. Some key questions I would like for you to consider as we approach the weekend sermon from Genesis 1:27-28 are:

> How much of God's agenda (mission) on Earth depends upon the relational health of family units?

> What impact does the family unit have on the Church and culture and how has both suffered from the breakdown of the family?

> Assuming that the culture goes as the family goes ... then what does the future look like for America if the family continues to disintegrate?

If indeed a great deal of God's agenda is played out through the family then the local church has a significant role in our culture. Having a weekly gathering place for families to come and experience lectures and seminars on healthy relationship is essential. All the more our focus should be on providing relevant educational classes and programming to aid family health for the community. It also validates our numerous self-help programs such as Divorce Care for Kids, Divorce Relationship Recovery, Marriage Rebuilders and Builders Workshops, Mastering Motherhood, and the various men's educational classes, etc., that we consistently offer throughout the year.

Everything we do at WHFC is transformation and redemptive in purpose. Redemptive in that by design our programs and ministries focus on bringing men, women, boys and girls to relationship with Jesus Christ and work towards recapturing the lost image of God in each one. Transformational in that Christ followers go into the world and influence society through emulating Christ's love and service to all.

As a church we must never forget that two thirds of God's name is "GO". We gather weekly in the Meeting House to be educated, encouraged and equipped to go into the world and share the kingdom of God with those in our sphere of influence. There is no sacred/secular divide in our lives. All is holy unto the Lord. What we do in the Meeting House is no more blessed by God then what we do with the rest of our time.

As we will discover this weekend from the demographic statistics presented in the sermon, one of the most influential ways Christians can transform society for the good and win others to Christ is through relationally healthy family units. And, the very best thing we can do for God's mission on Earth is not necessarily memorize more scripture, attend more Bible seminars or pounce on people with the "Four Spiritual Laws" but rather to deal with our relational junk. To invite Jesus into the brokenness of our lives and let Him to heal our family wounds that sabotage our marriages and parenting, destroying our testimony and besmirching God's glory.

We need to stop playing into the hands of Satan and stop hurting the ones we love while contributing to the breakdown of the Church and society. Then people will come to Jesus and find value in attending the local Meeting House and listen when we speak. As you can see family ministry is something that I am passionate about so it will be a challenge for me to stay within the 30-35 minute time limit :-) What say you?

Thanks for stopping by and listening to me spout!
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Adrian

Friday, August 14, 2009

Sunday evening - Concert of Prayer

This Sunday night the Church who call themselves Willoughby Hills Friends will gather in the Meeting House for a Concert of Prayer at 6 PM in room 227. We are a congregation that values prayer and see the need to schedule corporate times of intercession throughout the year.

What is a Concert of Prayer? Great question ...I am glad you asked ;-) It is a worship service devoted to prayer. A theme is chosen, scripture related to the theme is read, some volunteers will lead the group in public prayers for special concerns related to our church and world, and private prayer will take place as well throughout the service. We will conclude the evening with a time of singing and celebration.

Our theme this weekend centers on Micah 6:8. Please pre-read the passage and pray for God's blessing to fall upon our time together. I hope to see you Sunday evening and thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Saturday Night & Sunday's Sermon Guide

I encourage you to read ahead and prepare to engage God's word this weekend at the Meeting House. I will be sharing the same message both Saturday afternoon at 5 and Sunday morning at 9:30 and 11 titled, "God in the Balance." We will touch on two very important subjects directly related to God's glory and mission in the world. They are the importance God places on individual families and role the local church has in society today.

The text we will expound upon is Genesis 1:27-28; 31. From it we will discover 7 key observations. As you read and pray over the text see if you can pick them out. Maybe you will find some that I overlooked.

If there is a week you need to miss gathering with friends at the Meeting House remember you can listen to all of our weekly messages on the church website at www.whfriends.org. Next week I plan to continue discussion about the topics surfaced in the message this weekend on my blog and Facebook wall. My blog is called "Fodder" and can found at http://DrHalvey.blogspot.com.

I hope you have a blessed weekend and thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Saturday Men's Fight Club

"Do not be afraid of your enemy. Remember the Lord is great and awesome, and FIGHT for your brethern, your sons, your daughters, your wives and your houses." (Nehemiah 4:14). YES!

I love reading the theme verse for the Men's Fight Club ... it speaks to my heart. This week we will continue our study of the Core Truths About Jesus Found in the Gospels. We are on "Core Truth" # 11: "Jesus Folllows the Pattern of God's Redemption."

Please study Luke 15:4-32 in preparation for Saturday. Some questions we hope to answer are:

> What does it mean to act redemptively according to Jesus' definition?
> What does it mean to act redemptively in the world as a Christian?
> How does being judgmental impact the mission of redemption?
> What does the call to act redemptively mean for the church today?

I look forward to seeing you at 7:30 am in the Cafe. Jr will probably be joining us this week. Adrian will be in town this weekend for his bridal shower. He's getting married on October 4. SWEET!

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Rick Warren on life

My friend Farrah sent this to me. Enjoy and be blessed!

You will enjoy the new insights that Rick Warren has, with his wife now having cancer and him having 'wealth' from the book sales. This is an absolutely incredible short interview with Rick Warren, 'Purpose Driven Life ' author and pastor of Saddleback Church in California.
In the interview by Paul Bradshaw with Rick Warren, Rick said:
People ask me, What is the purpose of life?

And I respond: In a nutshell, life is preparation for eternity. We were not made to last forever, and God wants us to be with Him in Heaven.
One day my heart is going to stop, and that will be the end of my body-- but not the end of me.
I may live 60 to 100 years on earth, but I am going to spend trillions of years in eternity. This is the warm-up act - the dress rehearsal. God wants us to practice on earth what we will do forever in eternity..
We were made by God and for God, and until you figure that out, life isn't going to make sense.
Life is a series of problems: Either you are in one now, you're just coming out of one, or you're getting ready to go into another one.
The reason for this is that God is more interested in your character than your comfort; God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in making your life happy.
We can be reasonably happy here on earth, but that's not the goal of life. The goal is to grow in character, in Christ likeness.
This past year has been the greatest year of my life but also the toughest, with my wife, Kay, getting cancer.
I used to think that life was hills and valleys - you go through a dark time, then you go to the mountaintop, back and forth. I don't believe that anymore.
Rather than life being hills and valleys, I believe that it's kind of like two rails on a railroad track, and at all times you have something good and something bad in your life.
No matter how good things are in your life, there is always something bad that needs to be worked on.
And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always something good you can thank God for.
You can focus on your purposes, or you can focus on your problems:
If you focus on your problems, you're going into self-centeredness, which is my problem, my issues, my pain.' But one of the easiest ways to get rid of pain is to get your focus off yourself and onto God and others.
We discovered quickly that in spite of the prayers of hundreds of thousands of people, God was not going to heal Kay or make it easy for her- It has been very difficult for her, and yet God has strengthened her character, given her a ministry of helping other people, given her a testimony, drawn her closer to Him and to people.
You have to learn to deal with both the good and the bad of life.
Actually, sometimes learning to deal with the good is harder. For instance, this past year, all of a sudden, when the book sold 15 million copies, it made me instantly very wealthy.
It also brought a lot of notoriety that I had never had to deal with before. I don't think God gives you money or notoriety for your own ego or for you to live a life of ease.
So I began to ask God what He wanted me to do with this money, notoriety and influence. He gave me two different passages that helped me decide what to do, II Corinthians 9 and Psalm 72.
First, in spite of all the money coming in, we would not change our lifestyle one bit.. We made no major purchases.
Second, about midway through last year, I stopped taking a salary from the church.
Third, we set up foundations to fund an initiative we call The Peace Plan to plant churches, equip leaders, assist the poor, care for the sick, and educate the next generation.
Fourth, I added up all that the church had paid me in the 24 years since I started the church, and I gave it all back. It was liberating to be able to serve God for free.
We need to ask ourselves: Am I going to live for possessions? Popularity?
Am I going to be driven by pressures? Guilt? Bitterness? Materialism? Or am I going to be driven by God's purposes (for my life)?
When I get up in the morning, I sit on the side of my bed and say, God, if I don't get anything else done today, I want to know You more and love You better.. God didn't put me on earth just to fulfill a to-do list. He's more interested in what I am than what I do.

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Saturday, August 8, 2009

Duke on the Church

Leonard Sweet quotes the film legend John Wayne as saying, "I don't much like God when He gets under a roof" (So Beautiful, page 55). What do you think he meant by that statement?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Friday, August 7, 2009

A letter of resignation

I am writing to notify you that I am resigning from my position. I also want to inform you that Pastor Greg will no longer be your teaching pastor and the rest of the pastoral staff will be leaving as well. Now before I go any further let me explain.

That first paragraph was simply to get your attention and to remind us all of a future reality. As far as I know none of our staff plans to resign anytime soon but it will eventually occur at some point in the future. Pastors come and pastors go for any number of reasons but the church must remain and continue on for the glory of God and the good of society. Will WHFC be ready for that day?

Yes if we continue to define and follow a biblical model of church structure. The ABC model of the past 50-75 years developed an industry of sorts that looked to a CEO to set vision and run the church. It was his job to motivate people and raise the funds needed to keep the machine running. If he was successful in his effort employment continued and he often would reap a large financial reward for his success.

In the Western Church the ABC model did succeed for a season in terms of erecting buildings and gathering a crowd but look around ... the wheels have come off of that bus! That model left the church under-discipled and stuck doing ministry behind brick and mortar. It sure seems like God has pushed the reset button on the Church in America. Clearly Christ is revisioning His bride and is moving her back to a biblical model ... a model He can bless.

The revisioning of the Church is no easy task. The Church is prone emotionally to return to old patterns in an attempt to feel comfortable. Sometimes following the path of least resistance is more than just an emotional decision however. It can also be used as a means of shirking responsibility. We must know God's mandate and act upon it.

What is a biblical model of leadership structure for the Church? One where lay leaders assume responsibility of setting the direction and vision for the church and own a great deal of responsibility for implementing it each year along with the pastors.

I am pleased to be a part of a church and leadership team that seeks to flesh all of this out. We have a collegial mindset that continues to help us discern God's will for ministry, structure and vision. I am excited to see our lay leaders taking greater responsibility in some key areas. The future of our church demands it.

As our leadership continues to act on these principles please encourage and support them. It is for the over all good and health of WHFC. Celebrate that we are a fellowship of Christ followers who honor and seek to conform to the mandate of Scripture and not conform to the path of least resistance.

Okay, so our staff is not be leaving their post anytime soon ... but that day will come. Either God will call them to another assignment, they'll retire or move on to their heavenly reward. It's inevitable that something will happen one day and the church must be structured to make transition without falling apart. Praise God His word makes such provision.

The success of our pastoral leadership will ultimately be seen in how the church transitions through our departure some day. In a healthy scenario the body will not fragment and polarize behind a certain individual(s). Rather the church will be joined together under the banner of Christ's cause and not lose step in moving His great kingdom forward.

What say you? What's your thoughts on the importance of lay leadership in the local church? How close are we to the biblical template of scripture?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Men's Fight Club - study guide

This Saturday the Men's Fight Club will meet at 7:30 am in the WHFC Cafe for fellowship, prayer and Bible discussion. We will continue with our series, "The Core Truths About Jesus Found in the Gospels." This week we will consider Truth # 10: "Jesus targeted His ministry to the marginalized of society."

Please come prepared to discuss the following texts:

> Luke 4:18-19 and 7:22-23 noting how Jesus showed love to the poor and oppressed

> Matthew 9:9-12 and Luke 19:10 observing how Christ befriended the outcast and misfit.

Ask yourself over the next few days, "What do these passages mean for me?" What impact should it have on WHFC?"

I look forward to our time together. See you Saturday morning at the Meeting house where the coffee is always low in price and rich in flavor ... NICE! :-)
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Adrian

God's ways are not man's ways

So many times I have recalled this teaching from sacred literature down through my tenure of professional ministry ... "God's ways are not man's ways" and "do not trust in your own understanding but acknowledge God and He will direct your way."

The Apostle Paul writes a similar proverb to the Corinthians,
"Where is the wise? Where is the scribe? Where is the disputer of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of this world? For since, in the wisdom of God, the world through wisdom did not know God .... For you see your calling, brethren, that not many wise according to the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called. But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; and the base things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are, that no flesh should glory in His presence" (1 Corinthians 1:20-29).

Robert Fritz reminds us of a scientific fact in his book "The Path of Least Resistance for Managers" that the "underlying structure of anything will determine its path of least resistance. We can determine the path of least resistance by creating new structures. If you try to change your organizational behavior without dealing with the underlying structure then you will not succeed" (pg. 90).

When a church like WHFC desires to restructure and become missional, relational and incarnational rather than attractional (ABC's- attendance, building and cash driven) it will eventually face a crisis moment when some will want to return to past practices and follow the "path of least resistance." We have faced this in recent months and years as we instituted a new leadership model, sought to be more contemporary in our worship style and location to reach a younger, non-churched target group, revamp our membership process, and revision our bus garage into a ministry center. There are many more examples I'm sure but these are the ones which quickly come to mind.

This behavior is understandable because change can be difficult. The past is often so historically comfortable, clear and familiar and change is often times not at first. That is why following the lead of the Holy Spirit and having Spirit filled leaders in place is so imperative for the local church.

Having to wrestle with the path of least resistance can be beneficial for an organization. At WHFC it forces us to engage one another relationally, work together, define vision and purpose, use our resources wisely, and to center ourselves in Christ and not self interest.

If this principle holds true at WHFC eventually the path of least resistance will rear is head and put into question everything new or different. This is normal and should be expected. However, during the awkward, uncomfortable moments of transition leaders must stay the course. Not questioning in the dark what God gave them in the light.

Len Sweet reminds his readers in his book "So Beautiful," that following Christ is a paradox and "paradoxes are often the sign that things are going well" (pg. 45). He states that the true beauty of our relationship with Christ is: "We see the unseen; we subdue by submitting; win by losing; we are promoted by making ourselves little; come in first by being last; are honored by being humble; get filled with God by emptying ourselves; possess all by having nothing; we find real life by dying."

God's ways are not man's way. Proverbs reminds us there is a way that seems right unto a man but the end of the trail is destruction. H. L. Mencken said, "There is always an easy solution to every human problem - neat, plausible and wrong" (Sweet, pg. 41).

Does this ring true for your life? It does mine. Most of the time when I run ahead of Jesus I end up flat on my face. I've had to stop running ahead of Him ... at 49 I do not heal as quickly as I once did! What say you? :-)

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Church as we know it... Gone?

As I continue to read Len Sweet's new book "So Beautiful" I am encouraged by the fact that God is up to something new and exciting in His Church. While old paradigms are being dismantled God seems to be erecting new ones that are biblically based and socially relevant. God is definitely pushing the reset button on the Church. NICE!

Sweet says, that "Postmodern culture is an anti-Christian culture. If you are reading these words then you are likely the last generation to be familiar with the Christian story and for whom churches have cultural significance. And you will die leaving behind a culture for whom the Christian story will be completely unknown. This requires not only a new ability to tell the story but also a fresh way to re frame the story for a sinless society" (referring to a society where people do not see themselves as sinners).

God is up to something and WHFC must be a part of it or she will be marginalized and ineffective by cultural change. The goal of our pastoral leadership is to be MRI in focus: Missional, Relational and Incarnational in order to remain effective for the glory of God. MRI can be defined as "Going out, living with and engaging people where they are at, and emulating Jesus to them." It will be emphasized from our pulpit, be the matrix of our administration, taught in our educational classes, and developed in our social/relational agenda.

What about the ABC's (Attendance, Buildings and Cash)? God is in the process of dismantling this paradigm across America so does that mean they are going away? I think many will, at least for the congregations that focus more on the ABC's rather than the MRI.

Much like WHFC other churches will be forced to rethink the use of their facility and why they do what they do. Until our $5 million dollar mortgage is dismissed we will need to generate different streams of revenue with our facility. The day care will need to expand, our school will need to grow and use more of the facility M-F. We need other ministries and organizations utilizing our space in the evening. We must become an attractive people to the community offering space and service to meet their needs rather than soliciting people for an attractional agenda designed to sit them in the pews and place their cash in the offering plates.

God is up to something at WHFC. Over the next few months and years our leadership will foster change in order to stay in step with Jesus. The means to growth at WHFC is to identify and meet people's real needs so they can develop relationally with Jesus Christ. That is the Christian story emulated by the life and teachings of our Lord in the Gospels.

What say you? Will you help us repackage the Christian story? Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

"Aches, Pains, Complaints?"

Leonard Sweet tells the story of the "APC pill" from WWII in his new book "So Beautiful." He says, "ask anyone who served in WWII do you remember the APC? and they will most likely say, it cured everything."

The APC pill was designed to cure the aches, pains and complaints (APC's) of soldiers. It was a combination of aspirin, phenacetin and caffeine. The problem, long term use would kill you! Phenacetin caused renal problems and cancer. But the short term benefits were so good that people continued to use APC and purchase it illegally.

Sweet says, the APC for the church has been the "ABC fix." We know that focusing our attention on "Attendance, Buildings, and Cash" (ABC) will destroy our long term health but the short term fix makes us feel better about ourselves. We deceive ourselves into thinking that if people are coming, the building is modern or expanding and the money is good then we must be doing something right.

Sweet and a host of other contemporary theologians state the church must be MRI: Missional (going forth), Relational (engaging people in their setting), and Incarnational (emulating Jesus). As I hear this my thoughts go to the movie "The Matrix" when the main character was brought to a point of decision. Should he change for the good of self and society or maintain the comfortable status quo? The choice came down choosing between one of two pills: a red or blue one. One would continue with business as usual. The other pill would order up a brave new world to experience.

Willoughby Hills Friends has a decision to make as she continues to seek relevance in today's society. Does she choose the MRI or ABC? One is a quick fix, a known commodity but historically leads to ineffectiveness and destruction. The other decision can be scary, messy, chaotic and hard to track. It does not guarantee increased numbers in the pews each week or extra dollars in the offering plate. It will make her feel uncomfortable and force her to act and think differently.

MRI is the will of the Father for the Church today and is where Jesus is working at this time. I encourage you to take your daily MRI pill and practice the presence of Christ in your sphere of influence. What say you to all of this?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Friday, July 31, 2009

Sunday Night Bible Study Notes

This Sunday I invite you to join us at the church at 6 pm for Bible Study, prayer and fellowship. This week's study topic is on "Fear." In preparation for the study I would like for you to read Luke 12:32, I John 4:18, Matthew 6:31-33, and Philippians 4:6-7.

Fear controls many people's lives today. Even when they are not conscious of it. Others try to organized their entire lives around maintaining enough control so they do not feel afraid.

The problem often begins in childhood. Many of us were taught as kids that with hard work, careful planning, the right education, job or spouse, etc., we can determine our own destiny and have peace of mind. NOT!

Man's attempt to be free of fear always falls short. Despite our best efforts, it seems that we are always just one unexpected turn of events away from disaster. Jesus outlines an antidote for experiencing freedom from fear.

What do you think the antidote for fear is from the above passages? I look forward to hearing your thoughts on Sunday night. See you then and thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Saturday Fight Club

Hey men ...
This Saturday we will gather in the Church Cafe for Fight Club at 7:30 am. We will continue our discussion of "The Core Truths about Jesus." We are on number nine this week. The topic is: Jesus defines How we are to Love and Worship God. Please pre-read Matthew 21 and John 4.

See you Saturday.
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Adrian

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Is it different?

In the kingdom of God things are different. Christ's kingdom is not like this world (John 18:36). The things we do is rooted in our being as Christ followers.

Who we are as Christ followers is more fundamental than what we do. Our character is more basic than our action. In God's economy, being mastered by the Holy Spirit is more important than knowing how to manage the rigors of the Church.

In the world's economy personal value and success is often derived from action. You must earn the right to be somebody. But in Christ's kingdom, letting God control one's life is foundational to being, thinking and doing. This can often be hard to grasp in a culture like ours.

Results is what matters in our society. Even in the Church critical thinking, seeking God out and serious evaluation of His will can be pushed to the side as irrelevant if something has proven to be successful elsewhere. Some would say, "What more needs to be thought about if the program or action has already validated itself elsewhere? If it's working elsewhere we can make it happen here!" We can often become preoccupied with the anticipate results and not focus on the leading of the Holy Spirit.

In the Church success is granted through relationship. Relationship with God. The power and provision of God comes as a result of dependence upon Him. The result of our obedience to His leading and not our own. The best business and organizational practices relevant to today's culture will not bring success in the Church. Rather it will come as a result of our full consecration and dependence upon Him and heart-felt obedience to His will. What say you?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Monday, July 27, 2009

What will it take?

Have you ever read a passage of scripture and asked yourself, "What would it take for that to happen again?" I do. One that I chew over periodically is Acts 2:47. It reads, "...And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved."

Oh how I long for the day when the percentage of people coming to Jesus rivals or exceeds that of the early days of the Church. What will it take? What will we need to do to make it happen? Can we do anything at all? I do not have the answer to these questions but I do have a hypothesis to put forth. It came to me while reading First Thessalonians. In chapter one it tells how the Thessalonians turned from their idols and come to follow Christ. Because those who ministered to them did so "through the power of the Holy Spirit" (1:5-6).

So often it seems like something is missing in the work of the Church. We use our very best resources and yet the results simply are not there. Everything can seems to come off without a hitch and yet little impact was gained. It's as if God's blessing was not included in the mix.

Oh the blessing of God. How sweet it is! People will turn from their idols and come unto Jesus when the Holy Spirit is present. Even the littlest of effort will reap large results if the Holy Spirit is on board. The prophet Zechariah said it best ... "It is not by our might or our power; but by the Spirit of God" 4:6).

The contemporaries of early Friends called it the "Quaker Spirit." The presence and power of God upon early Friends often distinguished them from other religious orders. Through their humble ministry great works of God occurred. What made the difference? The blessing of God.

My hypothesis is: we need the blessing of God that comes through the fullness of the Holy Spirit. A fullness that is the result of people's full surrender to Christ and His ways. A condition that is the result of stillness before the Lord in prayer that includes a passionate, heartfelt plea for His power power to be displayed and glory to be seen. A power and anointing that is only seen when full dependence upon Christ is manifest.

I wonder: do we understand what it means to humble ourselves before God and forsake the self-sufficiency that is so natural ans seems so sensible to us as individuals or as a church? Have I as a minister in Christ's church modeled this life for others to see? Have I effectively taught it from the pulpit and lectern so others would know of this truth? So the Lord can add His blessing to our life, work and numbers to His kingdom?

Hmmmm ... sounds like more soul searching is needed on my part. What about you? Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Friday, July 24, 2009

Sunday Night Bible Study

This Sunday night at 6 pm we will gather in room 227 for Bible Study. We will continue our series on "Celebrating Pentecost." The focus will be on God's intent for our restoration and wholeness through the Holy Spirit. The title of this week's study is "Life Giving Water."

Please read the following passages in preparation for the study. Ezekiel 36:22-28; Ezekiel 37; Zechariah 13; John 4:10; 7:37-39; Isaiah 49:8-10. Anyone thirsty?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Saturday Men's Fight Club

Once again men will gather this Saturday in the church Cafe for Fight Club. We will drink coffee, eat food, laugh at silly things, share life together, pray and study the Bible. Come and join us at 7:30 am.

This week our study will focus once again on the "Core Truths about Jesus found in the Gospels." We are on number eight and the topic is: "Jesus Christ is the Standard for Holiness." Please take time to pre-read the Sermon on the Mount found in Matthew 5-8. The key questions for discussion are: What does this core truth mean for you? What does it mean for the Church?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Family of God # 8

I just returned last evening from attending our annual conference. This morning I am singing "I'm so glad I'm a part of the family of God, we're joint heirs with Jesus as we travel this sod, for I'm part of the family, the family of God." Too bad you can't hear me ... Lisa can hardly contain herself with the angelic serenade :-).

This year I was impressed with the maturity displayed among the delegate body. The manner they conducted themselves on the floor was articulate and respectful. The care and encouragement they shared in the down time exemplified what the scriptures describe as a Spirit filled Christ follower. Again I am reminded of the importance for growth and maturity in our local churches. We live in an emotionally, relationally damaged world which often times plays out through unhealthy expressions in the local church. We must face the problem and include a strategy in our discipleship matrix.

In the original context of discipleship it refers to an individual who follows and emulates the life and teaching of a rabbi (teacher). They often left family and job to live with the rabbi knowing that some things must be caught rather than just taught. They became one with the rabbi.

Today discipleship has been defined by many as Bible study, church attendance and adherence to a slate of doctrine. But the infusion of life with Jesus Christ through the fullness of the Holy Spirit into the inner recesses of our personal brokenness and sin nature is missing. This is the rich affective message of holiness. That we can invite the power of Christ's presence into the brokenness of life and correct what the nature of sin and human error has caused. That we can emulate the life of Christ, not because of book learning and the doctrine man but because we have become the embodiment of Christ through full consecration and the fullness of the Holy Spirit.

The only way to raise the emotional, social, relational IQ of the church today is through the impartation of Christ's life into ours. All other strategy will fall short. We must ask God to become Jesus. Not as a member of the Trinity but through the impartation of His life into ours. This requires full surrender of self to Christ so that His nature become ours, so His mind controls our action, so His resurrection power can transform us from broken vessels of sin into people who display His life and glory. Are we ready the grow up?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Yearly Meeting Sessions

I just returned home from Canton on my Yamaha. I cannot remember ever riding in a more severe thunderstorm like the one I just experienced. I am thankful for a heavy bike, good tires, and a dry rain suit.

I chose to commute Monday and Tuesday as opposed to staying over in Canton for Yearly Meeting. This morning was an early start. I had a 7 am meeting which put me on the road around 5:30 am.. What a beautiful morning to ride!

So what's Yearly Meeting? In the Friend's tradition local churches gather once a year to worship, fellowship and conduct the business of our denomination. I can vaguely remember the days when it ran for two solid weeks. Now we are down to two days of actual business sessions. My how times have changed.

However, there are a few things that remain constant. One is the excitement and joy people have in coming together each year and two, is the unity we experience during our business sessions. Unity is no small feat in the body of Christ you know. It requires a humble spirit on the part of all in attendance and a willingness to center one's will and desire beyond self interest. May this same spirit carry forth into all of our churches and families in the coming months. We could all use a little more righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost ... Amen?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Monday, July 20, 2009

The Redemptive Story in Ruth

Last evening in our Sunday evening Bible study we looked at the plan of redemption as it is symbolized through the story and personalities found in the book of Ruth. Let me summarize our discussion for your consideration and input.

The story line is: Naomi, her husband and two sons move from Bethlehem to Moab because of a famine. Her two sons marry Moabite women, Ruth and Orpah. In Moab Naomi's husband and two sons die. In desperation she moves back to Bethlehem and encourages her two daughter-in-laws to return to their Moabite families. Orpah does but Ruth chooses to stay with Naomi.

While in Bethlehem Ruth is encouraged to glean grain in a field owned by Boaz. Through a series of events Boaz becomes the kinsman redeemer for Naomi and Ruth. He becomes their provider and redeems their family position and name. The story ends with the marriage of Boaz and Ruth. What a wonderful story! So who do the personalities in the book of Ruth symbolize?

Ruth represents us (lost humanity) in the story. An outcast, a foreigner in a strange land. She had no hope. Much the same as our situation because of sin.

Boaz is a "type" of Jesus Christ in the story. He paid the price and redeemed Ruth and Naomi to a right standing. Rescuing them from their lost state.

Naomi symbolizes the Holy Spirit in the book of Ruth. She was the one who brought Ruth to Boaz. Without Naomi, Ruth would not have made her way back to Bethlehem, not been encouraged to glean in Boaz's field or understood the custom(s) that led to her redemption and matrimony. Thanks be to God for the Holy Spirit who is actively engaging us, wooing us to our Kinsman Redeemer - Jesus Christ.

The country of Moab represents our lost estate, a foreign land and false gods. Bethlehem symbolizes the "promised land" of Christ's salvation. The name Bethlehem means, "House of Bread." Through the leading of the Holy Spirit and the redemptive work of Jesus Christ we are able to dwell in the grace and mercy of God and feast upon the Bread of Life.

Praise God from whom all blessings flow! The story of redemption is one we should never tire of hearing. Give God praise this day for Jesus and the sweet sweet Holy Spirit!

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Sunday Night Bible Study

This Sunday night we will continue with our series titled: "Celebrating Pentecost." This week's topic is: The Holy Spirit in the Book of Ruth. Ruth is a book rich in symbolism. Some say it accurately displays and foretells the plan of salvation. I encourage all to pre-read the story of Ruth and try to figure out who/what each of the following represent.

One, who does Ruth symbolize in the story of redemption?

Two, who does Boaz represent?

Three, Naomi was a type or likeness of who in the Gospel message?

Four, what does the country of Moab represent in the salvation message?

Five, Bethlehem is a symbol of what?

I look forward to hearing your thoughts on the subject. Come prepared to share! Also, I plan to have birthday cake for Lisa to share with all in attendance during the study time. Don't tell her ... it's a surprise!

I hope to see you Sunday night! Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Attention Men!

This Saturday morning the Men's Fight Club will meet for prayer, fellowship and Bible study in the church Cafe. All men are welcome to attend. The meeting will begin at 7:30 am. Breakfast will follow. Here's our study notes for this week.

Series: Core Truth Taught about Jesus Christ in the Gospels

Topic: Core Truth # 7 - Jesus Calls People to Follow and Imitate Him

Key Scriptures for discussion:
> Matthew 4:19
> Matthew 8:22

Question # 1:
What are the implications of this Truth for the Christ followers today?

Question # 2:
What are the implications for the Church?

Question # 3:
What are the examples of how this Core Truth could be lived out in your life?

Question # 4:
What examples are there for our church to put into practice?

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I hope you can join us! Thanks for stopping by the blog today!
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Adrian

Family of God # 7

Are you in your right mind?

Interesting question eh? In the field of conflict management we use three words to describe the way in which people process anxiety based upon their behavior. Each word is used to describe one of the three parts of the human brain. They are reptilian, limbic, and cerebral.

Reptilian or "R complex" refers to the lowest part of the human brain and is responsible for basic survival and repetitive behaviors in people and animals. The limbic section of the human brain is similar to that found in most primates which causes parenting, communication among species, and play to occur.

What really separates humans from all the rest of creation (in terms of brain function) is the part known as the cerebral cortex. It is far greater in size and complexity than that of animals which enables humans to think ahead, think abstractly and symbolically, write, create, plan, etc. And, like a muscle, the cerebral cortex can be developed, trained and empowered for greater use.

Studies in family systems theory show the more we develop our cerebral cortex the less we react to life from the limbic and reptilian centers of our brain. Maybe that is what the Apostle Paul had in mind when he instructed Timothy to "study to show thyself approved..." (2 Timothy 2:15) or when he referenced how the transformation in life comes through "the renewing of our mind" (Romans 12:1-2).

As church people submit to the Lordship of Jesus Christ and intentionally, purposefully develop their knowledge of the life and teachings of Jesus found in the Bible, and if they have acquired and act upon a life long passion for learning they will in time have a greater skill set to use in decision making. Those who do are often referred to as high functioning people. However, the lower the level of brain function people have the more emotionally reactive they become to the issues of life and the more anxiety they take on from others. Low functioning people tend to have little to no energy to contribute to their relationships or to use in meeting the needs of others as mandated in the kingdom of God.

In the family of God we need every person assuming personal responsibility for their growth. The more we do the healthier our fellowship will become relationally and spiritually. So, are you in your right mind?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Family of God # 6

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God (Romans 12:1-2).

The passage speaks of the need for every believer to take personal responsibility for their growth in Christ for many reasons. Most definitely it is required for the social/relational health of the church. In family systems theory we refer to this level of responsibility as "individuality force." Emotionally healthy individuals normally can resist the immaturity of becoming emotionally attached to the anxiety or problems of others.

The individuality force enables us to adapt in life, to set and fulfill goals, to live out an orderly life course and make healthy contributions to families, church and society. People of individuality usually experience a happy life and are a blessing to all who know them through satisfying and stable relationships.

So, according to Paul we must "present" self to God (verse 1) and "be transformed by the renewing of our mind" (verse 2). Otherwise we will continue to conform to the unhealthy pattern of the world. Continuing to live day to day from one problem to the next, usually on the brink, and barely making it at all. Choosing to live as hermits, angry, rebels, relational nomads unable to attach to God and others in meaningful ways. Unable to delight in the ways of Jesus through giving and serving others in healthy ways.

So, how is mind renewal achieved? I would like to hear your take. Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Family of God # 5

How relevant is Church?

Pat Pope sent me this survey today from Chris Ediger's blog "In The Thin Places". It's part four of a series titled "The Unchurched." All of the information is timely and I encourage you to read through all five parts of the series if you get a free moment.

The survey's focus is on the relevance of the traditional church model for people today and presents some interesting results for consideration. Please read it over and comment on whether the findings are true to your experience or not. To view the actual survey and summary you will need to go to the following link. http://www.chrisediger.com/read/unchurch-part-four-survey-results

I look forward to hearing your comments. Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Monday, July 13, 2009

Family of God # 4

A lot of conflict in the local church congregation is caused by hierarchy. It is a phenomenon often seen in humans as well as other parts of God's creation. Anyone in church leadership must give it consideration because generally every grouping of people organize around it. Hierarchy means a ranking of all the individuals within the group from highest to lowest according to social status. It is a way to organize complex groups of people. It is most clearly seen during times of high anxiety. There is often a price to pay for hierarchy.

When consensus is used and power is distributed among many, people feel engaged, valued and "heard." However, when hierarchy rules subordinates often feel dominated and devalued as a person and will become emotionally depressed and disenchanted with the group. As Bowen pointed out in his work titled Family Theory, "as people loose the ability to function and make decisions in a group it takes less and less anxiety to trigger dysfunctional or irresponsible behavior or to cause physical, emotional or social illness (drinking, smoking overeating, acting out, etc.) to occur." (page 385)

As a Friends Church we are organized under a congregational system. Simply stated, the power of our church resides with the individual member. Members appoint leaders to govern the affairs of the organization. Leaders are accountable to the membership.

In a congregational lead structure like the Friends Church it is imperative for leaders to keep the Proforma of the organization clearly in focus for all to see. By consensus decisions must be made for the good of the vision, mission and objectives of the organization and not to cater to the will or preferences of the individual.

Hierarchy exists in the Friends Church. It is seen through our elected leaders and the non-official structuring of our church community. We trust in the maturity of people to use their influence to help us fulfill the ministry Proforma of our organization and not to use their platform of influence over others to push their own agenda.

Through mature people the Holy Spirit can lead a church through consensus for the glory of God. As the Apostle Paul reminds us in Ephesians 5, "we are to be mutually submission unto one another as unto the Lord." This principle works at home too. As we submit ourselves to the good of our family mission the more available we become to the Holy Spirit's leading and power working in our life and in the ones we love. Seeking selfish interest is always a stopper for the miracle working power of God. Whether in the home or at church.

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Sunday Night Bible Study

This Sunday night at 6 pm we will gather at the Meeting house in room 227 for a time of singing, testimonies, prayer and Bible study. Our study will continue to focus on "Celebrating Pentecost." Pentecost speaks of the coming of the Holy Spirit and the birth of the Church (Acts 2).

The key text we will explore is Mark 6:1-6. From this text and others we will see how the Spirit ministers to us during times of rejection. One of the names for the Holy Spirit in the Greek means "the One who stands beside us." When we feel rejected and all alone as a Christian the Holy Spirit will come beside us and hold us up.

Sunday night we will note:
I. The Context leading up to the Mark 6 passage.
II. The Circumstances Christ faced.
III. How Christ's circumstances Connect with our life.
IV. Christ's Commission to us in times of rejection.

Please read ahead and provide questions for discussion. I hope to see you Sunday at 6 PM. I'm thinking ice cream after our study this week ... what say you?
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Blessings,
Adrian

Weekend Men's Activities at WHFC

Wow, we have a lot going on this weekend at the Meetinghouse! Friday 90+ men will be leaving town for a weekend of camping in southern Ohio at the anual Father & Son Campout. We are hoping for dry weather and good food!

On Saturday at 7:30 am, the Men's Fight Club will meet in the Friendly Grounds Cafe for Bible study and fellowship. Men, come and grow with us as we seek to know Jesus fully and live responsibly as men. Breakfast will follow at a local restrauant.

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Adrian

Family of God # 3

The emotional process of congregations tends to press people into a position in a similar way the nuclear family does. It may be positive in assisting people in doing/living their best in life or it may compress them into chronic anxiety and reactive behaviors that can be professionally and relationally devastating. Our relational systems either bring out the best in people or the worst at times.

The local church is made up of many relational systems/units. The people in each unit is interconnected with each other emotionally. During times of high anxiety it will pass from person to person and nearly always end up resting on the most immature member of the group. In family systems theory we refer to this as "the family projection process." Through this process we understand how people from the same group can act so differently at times to the same set of circumstances. Some are able to adjust and others are not.

Generally speaking, in a church situation we tend not to just look at the person "acting out" as the problem but assume they are the "identity person" for their relational group or projecting pain from their childhood. Sometimes the anxiety of their group is more than they are able to contain so it spills out. The anxiety can be associated with either their nuclear family, life in general or triggered by the group they are association with at church.

There are eight common ways in which emotionally immature people act out at home or church (these 8 are taken from Gilbert's book, The Eight Concepts of the Bowen Theory, page 85ff).
1. The good person - They usually are not a problem for the church but wear themselves out emotionally/physically trying to please everyone.

2. The rebel - Also known as the black sheep. Their preferred pattern for life is conflict. Trouble usually appears wherever the rebel is.

3. The sick one - Often times this person absorbed and deferred the dysfunction in their family of origin through symptoms of chronic illness. Through sickness they got attention and felt safe. They will often do the same in church.

4. The caretaker - This position is usually assumed in a home where parents are absent or unavailable emotionally. Many children of alcoholics assume this role because they had to care for younger siblings due to mom and dad's drinking. In the church they tend to dominate others and tell them what they should or shouldn't do.

5. The family therapist - They go thorough life trying to have all the answers and solve every one's problems.

6. The star - The star is the over-achiever in the family and is the favored one of their siblings. They tend to not do well in adult relationship because they often have unrealistic expectations for others (and self).

7. The comic - They often learn how to be a clown while growing up as way to cut the family tension. Unfortunately they often never learn how to take life/relationships seriously however.

8. The favored child - Usually very congenial and "blessed" by the family. However often times they become untouchable and intimacy avoidant in their relationships.

In the church these eight common behaviors will present through the "family projection process" during times of anxiety. Most of the time it is a symptom of a much deeper problem stemming from a person's childhood and being triggered by life's pressure-cooker or through their relational system at church. If its the group at church causing the person to "act out" then church leaders must work within the system to relieve the anxiety and foster healing and emotional maturity in the group member.

What should the goal of church relationship be? To be made whole and conformed into the likeness of Jesus Christ (Romans 8:28-29) and to spur one another on to love and good works (Hebrews 10:24). What's your take on all of this? Thanks for stopping by today!
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Adrian

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Family of God # 2

My post a few days ago was about how the church is like a family in many ways. We know from past experience in the church, as well as studies in family systems theory, that the best leaders are generally the ones who have healthy family relationships. Bowen, the founder of family systems theory found that the therapists he was training who took the ideas "home" with them made superior professional progress over their peers who did not (Bowen. Family Therapy in Clinical Practice, p. 533.)

We all have automatic behaviors and patterns that stem from our childhood. They are usually counterproductive and get triggered from time to time. The best place to work on them is at home with the people we live with. Home is our primary emotional field and it can be an extremely effective place to deal with "our stuff." If we have immature ways of relating from time to time a spouse will tell us and children will draw it out of us.

The goal is to become relationally healthy and not dump negative emotional energy in the family unit. As we succeed in this area there is really a twofold benefit. One family life becomes more healthier and satisfying, and two, we carry less emotional baggage around with us to unpack in others relationships like church and work.

The leader who is succeeding relationally at home is generally more accessible, emotionally balanced, and less reactive at church. If leadership relationships improve there will be less anxiety in the congregation and they will model relational/emotional health for others to see. Maybe this is what Paul had in mind when laying out the prerequisites for church leaders in First Timothy 3. He said, a leader must be "gentle and not quarrelsome; one who rules his children and own house well" (verses 2, 3-4, 12).

Please pray for our leaders in this area. Ask God to give our Nominating Committee discernment and wisdom as they appoint leaders each year. Because as it is at home ... so shall it be at church!

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian

Monday, July 6, 2009

Family of God

The Church is known as a family ... the Family of God. Why? Well because Bill and Gloria Gaither sang so in their famous hit song "The Family of God." So there you have it ... any other questions?

Actually there are some who feel strongly that congregations are not families and should not be referred to as such (M.Bowen. Family Therapy in Clinical Practice, p. 462). Bowen thought that in using the word "family" for organizations only encourages those who are trying to get their emotional needs met there inappropriately. I guess in some ways I agree with Bowen's theory but probably not for the same rationale. I believe Christians should have their emotional needs addressed first and foremost, through the sufficiency of Jesus Christ. Beyond that however, I see the Church functioning very much like a family unit.

In my 29 years of church work I have observed time and again where congregations show the same characteristics as emotional systems as do families. When enough anxiety is dumped into the church system they exhibit conflict, distance themselves from one another, shun and cut people off relationally, practice codependency through either over/under functioning, and by all means ... the church will triangulate (talk about people rather than to the one they have an issue with) just like a dysfunctional nuclear family unit.

How does the Church become familial (family like)? Simply by spending time together. Just rub shoulders long enough with someone and emotional patterns/systems form. Also, by spending time together hierarchy develops in the group. Leaders and followers naturally appear and lines of loyalty are drawn.

The church is different than a family unit in that she is much more complex. She is made up of individual family units (nuclear), committees, boards, staff, ministry teams, Bible studies and education classes, and old school -vs.- contemporary preferences, etc. Whether we are referencing a large or small church there are numerous emotional units intertwined within a local congregation. As long as a local fellowship keeps their hearts humble and Christ central, the whole unit will function for the glory of God and the good of people.

So what does a healthy congregation look like? She probably resembles a pot of spaghetti. Each one intermingled with different groups with Chef Jesus stirring the pot often. As long as we remain in the Water of the Word, allowing Him to keep our hearts pure and humble, and stirred up (changing), we'll be okay. What's your take on the Family of God?

Thanks for stopping by!
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Adrian